Foot Fetish......Tickle, Tickle.

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    Hi everyone. I am here sitting at the nail salon finishing off my biweekly pedicure. As usual I laughed so much and so hard that the lady sitting next to me and the nail technician started to giggle (Oh well if you can't beat 'em, join 'em...right). Me and my ticklish feet (blah). But my laughable moment got me to thinking about foot fetish and what is it all about. 
   
     Let's take a peek into what is a foot fetish. According to Wikipedia foot fetish or foot fetishism, foot partialism, foot worship, or podophilia is a pronounced sexual interest in feet. It is the most common form of sexual fetishism for otherwise non-sexual objects or body parts (and the most searched sexual term on the internet.....who knew?).
    
     Which means a foot fetish is the need or desire of the person to play with their lover's feet. This will help them reach sexual satisfaction. And it's not always the entire foot that someone may be attracted to. It could be just the nails, toes, ankles, shoes (Oh my goodness! I have a foot fetish!), even jewelry that is worn on the foot. 

    Now that you know what the meaning is. And you realize your partner has a foot fetish. What do you do?! Don't get all freaked out! Take you time and learn what they like. Most people who have this fetish still have a "normal" (did you laugh at the word normal too? ) sex life. Just relax. This fetish can be virtually harmless.

    Let's look at some of the things that can turn on your foot loving partner. They may enjoy foot visuals, smells and textures. Wearing sexy shoes (any opportunity for me to buy new shoes makes me happy!), the feel of thigh highs and panty hose, even knee high socks can turn them on. They may even like the odor of your smelly socks. Giving massages with edible or flavored lubes can be enjoyable and masturbating with the foot or giving a "foot job" can excite your lover to the point of orgasm. 

     Remember with practice (and well pedicured toes) feet can do almost anything hands can do! Well until next time folks..... Allow Us Inside of Your Bedroom.

Anal Sex......Try It You May Like It

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     So what exactly is anal sex? Well according to Wikipedia anal sex is generally the insertion and thrusting (thrusting...wow! Who is afraid of that word) of the erect penis into a person's anus and/or rectum for sexual pleasure. Other forms of anal sex include: fingering (which I always recommend for novices and personally I find it more comfortable), the use of sex toys for anal penetration, oral sex performed on the anus (anilingus....we will chat about that in a later post....maybe Anal Sex: The Series) and pegging (Don't give me that look)

      Just like anything else, anal sex has it's risks. According to Wikipedia some of the general risks include: infections due to the high number of infectious microorganisms not found elsewhere in the body. And physical damage to the anus and rectum due to their fragility. 

     Even with all the facts some of us are still curious. How can we tell our partner we want to give a try in the butt? Just be careful when deciding to broach the subject. We definitely do NOT want the love of our life or even the side piece to feel inadequate sexually. Here are some suggestions on how to make this adventure easier. 
   
     First, you have to be open and honest. Talk about what you are feeling. When I finally decided I wanted to try anal. I was a bit nervous to chat about it with my partner. I didn't want him to think I was gross. It was awkward in the beginning but with ALOT of blushing and stuttering (and dry mouth and I think my palms were sweaty...ewww) Even through all of that I was able to get my message across. As our conversation continued we definitely found the desire to be mutual (thank goodness).
     
     So what's next? Do you just grab the anal lube and go to town? Not yet. We definitely want to set the mood. Make sure the person you are with is super comfortable. Some pheromone candles (or any yummy smelling candle you have on hand). Soft music playing in the background. Take a warm relaxing bath or nice leisurely shower together. Washing each other would make any man or woman feel like royalty. Paying attention to the rear end is something I recommend. I personally love bathing together. It's sensual and puts my mind at ease. Feeling your lover touch you so very intimately is a sure fire way to let them know I'm here and I care. 
     
     Now off to the bedroom where the party begins. Fast forward past the drying your partner off, maybe a sweet massage, nibbles and kisses....here we are on the bed. And the moment is staring us RIGHT IN THE FACE! (Whew, did it get hot in here??) Don't make this more painful than it needs to be. Maybe you should try fingering your partner, using the lube of your choice. Try 1 finger at a time, slowly sliding back and forth (can not stress enough please be liberal with the lube!) We can also try anilingus. This may make your partner scream the heavens down. Steady, gentle licks on the anus sends chills down anyone's spine.  
     
     This might be where you stop. Some aren't ready to go "all the way" in one night. And that's fine. There are no real rules to anal sex. Just take your time, relax and enjoy. Try including some of these methods in your regular foreplay so your lover can be comfortable with the sensations, eventually you may introduce new positions that allow more or less access to the anus. 
     
     "Bottom" line (wink) is we want to have fun and maybe even achieve the elusive anal orgasm. I bet that term got your attention! Well until next time folks.....Allow Us Inside of Your Bedroom!

Let Me Introduce Myself

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     Hello world! My name is VernĂ©e Peters (going by Mistress Starr for all of my posts). I'm happy and excited to be a blogger for HPPPA!! (Can't you tell with all the exclamation points I'm putting everywhere?!?!) I have been a home party planner ten years next February and have been with HPPPA for about a year or so. (Yaaay!)
 
     As you get the opportunity to read, I will share facts sprinkled with a bit of fun, tips and tricks once a week (Look, another exclamation point)! Im looking forward to every sentence. Stay tuned....Allow Us Inside of Your Bedroom.

"Show Us Your Pleasure Party Display Table Challenge"

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With all of the challenges going around Facebook, we'd like to issue a challenge to any home pleasure party plan owner.

Our challenge is called the "Show Us Your Pleasure Party Display Table Challenge". Post a picture of your product display table on our private & public pages (facebook.com/hpppa). A panel of HPPPA members will review all challenge entries & pick a winner. The winner will receive a prize.

The Show Us Your Pleasure Party Display Table Challenge runs through August 31st. The winner will be selected & his/her name will be posted on September 19th. Share this with other party plan owners you know.

Curvy, Confident, and Canny - Kelly Shibari: The Woman with a Cap Full of Feathers

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I first saw Kelly at the International Lingerie Show (ILS), modeling the sexy plus size harness ‘Bella,’ by one of my favorite brands - Spareparts® HardWear.  Kelly Shibari is an adult film star that began her entertainment career with production of Hollywood films. This amazing woman breaks so many of the negative stereotypes about adult film stars, and plus size women.  She is intelligent, holds multiple degrees, is confident, sexy, humble, and wasn’t raised in a broken home.  I like to call her the “Jackie-of-all- trades,” as she’s done it all continues breaking through the same barriers holding so many others back.  What I found to be most impressive is her level of authenticity and openness, and the positivity and confidence she exudes. 
           
During the interview we discussed being plus size, her sexuality, her take on masturbation, her favorite toys, her experience being 2 time winner of ‘The Fannys,’ life on and off-screen, upcoming projects, her collection of feathers, and much more.  Here are some highlights from the interview:

Kelly on being 2-Time Winner of ‘The Fannys’:
            Toni:    Congratulations on your recent win of “The Fannys.”  How has this                          experience been for you?

            Kelly:  It has been an awesome and humbling experience.  
  • This is a fan-based award Kelly believes she achieved by being so connected with her fans by talking to them all the time on social media. Kelly has a huge fan-base on Instagram, more than 10,000 followers on Facebook, and more than 65,000 followers on Twitter.

Kelly on being Plus Size:
            Toni:    What are some stereotypes you’ve overcome within the industry?

            Kelly:  In general, the industry has been more accepting of plus size performers over the past 4 or 5 years.  This is my 7th year in the industry and during my first couple years, especially before social media, it was more-or-less a fetish-side niche done by a few companies whose primary focus was big-busted women. Now, with the huge growth of social media, so many have become more open and ‘out-of-the- closet' with their love for bigger women. Currently, award companies that once lumped bbw (big beautiful women) porn with specialty categories, such as clown porn and foot fetish, now include it as its own separate category…with the exception of a few which I’m hoping changes soon!

            Toni:    What internal and external challenges do you still face being plus size?

            Kelly:  I’ve always been a plus size girl.  My time within the industry as a performer, in  terms of fans, has been very positive; this actually helps with my self-esteem.  Not that I had horribly low self-esteem before, but there is a definite difference between being out in the real world, having boyfriends, having been a kid and been teased and bullied about being fat, and then suddenly being in movies and on the internet, and having hundreds of thousands of fans email and tell you that you’re their  fantasy person.  This is a different type of validation.  On the other hand, you don’t necessarily solicit this type of attention when it comes to other emotional levels of attachment, such as a boyfriend or husband, and you hope the person likes you for not only physical reasons, but other reasons as well. 
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  •           Within the industry­­ Kelly is comfortable with any plus-sized positive term.  Personally, Kelly prefers chubby or curvy! Kelly is the only Asian and curvy adult film star.  She was also the only plus size woman to have been molded for the limited edition, Fleshlight.  Recently, Kelly co-created jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Plus Size.  This is the first ever educational video on plus size sex, something Kelly has wanted to do for 4 years. The video is set to be released around summertime.

Kelly, Outside of Performing:
            Toni:    So being that I originally met you at ILS, how did you get involved with Spareparts® HardWear? (A hit brand in the LGBTQ community)

            Kelly:  Spareparts® HardWear distributes through a couple companies.  The main one (Entrenue), which is sort of a boutique and high-end one, works with several companies that use a sales training company called STEME (Steme.biz) to teach retail staff, and I handle their PR and social media.  Well, the owner of STEME contacted me about Sparparts® HardWear looking for a model to promote their new plus size harness, Bella. 
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  •       Most novelty companies won’t use adult performers to promote product because they want to be able to target mainstream clients.  Spareparts® HardWear chose Kelly and made her the “face/body” of Bella.  Currently, she is the model on their box.  For two years now Spareparts® HardWear has hired Kelly as a live model for their plus size harness, Bella, at ILS.

            Toni:    Speaking of novelties, what’s your take on adult pleasure products?  Are you a fan of toys?

            Kelly: I love toys! I have always been a big fan of masturbation!  I’ve been masturbating since I was 9.  I’ve always been very much in touch with my body, how it works, and how certain things are pleasurable.  I’m also a nerd, so I like trying new gadgets.  A lot of the things I try don’t work, for me, but I’m more of a clitoral person.  (Although I recently found out I can squirt!)  But I’ve always been a big fan of vibrators.

            Toni:    So what are your top 3 favorite toys?

            Kelly:  Shibari Wands HALO is number 1.  I tested it for the first time and thought, ‘This is the best thing ever!’ Some of the original wand vibrators are so strong, it feels like they might burn my clit off. The HALO is strong enough to get me off in 0-60, without the worry of too much stimulation.  I can use it with a partner, but I really enjoy it by myself. 

                        Because I’ve recently learned how to squirt, I was introduced to the G-Spot Lollipop.   It looks, literally, like a toy baton, and it's low-tech but works every time. If you're looking to squirt, that’s a product that works almost every time.
 


                        I’m also a fan of Liberator, and all the different wedges, for a variety of  reasons.  I love the Wanda, which you attach a Shibari Wand type toy too and ride it.  It’s great when you’re playing with a partner because you can do a lot of forced orgasm type play.


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          Toni:    Speaking of partner play, you identify as bisexual.  Tell me about your sexual  preference?

           Kelly:  The interesting thing about being in porn is that it has given me an accelerated experience of doing all the things that would take other people years to figure out if they actually like or not, in a controlled and safe environment, where everyone is tested.  When I first started out 7 years ago I was completely bisexual (I used to date women).  I have found over the years that I have a pretty masculine, hetero-normative mindset.  I love guys.  My personal sexual preference is heterosexual, but I do love women for play.  I love strip clubs, and I love having a play partner.  Currently,  I consider myself mostly hetero, with a desire to play with women on the side.
           
            Toni:    When you retire from performing what do you want to do, would you remain in the       adult industry?

            Kelly:   I absolutely love this industry.  With all of its weird chaos and drama, I am still a big fan of this industry.  I’ve always been in some segment of entertainment since college, and this is just something that I have naturally fallen into. I think segwaying away from performing when that time comes is not going to be very difficult.  Right now the majority of my work is in PR and marketing.

  • Kelly was a roadie for rock n’ roll tours, and was then a production designer for mainstream Hollywood films and commercials.

            Toni:    What feathers haven’t you collected that you would like to collect? What can we look forward to coming up?

            Kelly:  I'm kind of running out of things to check off my list.  At a certain point you say ‘wow, what haven’t I done sexually that I still want to do?’  I haven’t done porn anal.  This is different than regular anal with an average sized penis.  I am currently working on a project where I get to do that for the first time.  I’m extremely nervous. I’ve done plenty of girl/girl anal with toys on camera, but it’s different when it’s attached to a human body.
                         
                         As for upcoming projects, once the educational film is out I will work on promoting that.  I really enjoy doing PR and marketing because every week is a different project, so that will continue.

  •  Kelly Shibari does PR and marketing, modeling for companies like Spareparts® HardWear, work with adult novelty manufactures, blogging, editing, and more. Later today, Kelly will be showcased on the cover of Penthouse Forum. 

It was such a pleasure to interview such an intelligent and awe-inspiring woman.  At one point during the interview Kelly talked about a saying in her family, “It doesn’t really matter what line of work a potential girlfriend is in; if she acts like a lady you treat her like a lady, if she acts like trash you treat her like trash.”  In all that she does she takes pride in doing it with class, and her collection of feathers in her cap is proof of this.  Personally, I can say I have met so many that supposedly fit into mainstreams classification of “professional” that have less class than she.  We need more Kelly’s in the adult industry to help break the stereotypes that accompany it.   

Connect with Kelly Shibari:
 
Websites: kellyshibarixxx.com, Paddedkink.com, ThePRSMgroup.com
Facebook: KellyShibari
Twitter: KellyShibari