Why does all of this matter? More education = less stereotypes, less discrimination, and more sales.
Why more sales? Studies show when people feel more comfortable they buy.
If you know the difference you're less likely to say something offensive possibly killing a sale or losing potential clients. Negative word of mouth can be devastating to your business.
So what does all this mean?
Well.... Here are the basics everyone (especially those working in the adult industry) should know!
What it is: How you feel
What it is not: What's between your legs.
Your gender identity can differ from whats between your legs, what you are attracted to, or how you appear at a given moment. There are those who dress in drag and still feel like their biological sex in everyday life...On the opposing end, there are those who conform to societal norms and feel every bit of the opposite sex inside.
Play it safe: Don't assume...either ask, or leave it alone! You can say "Whats your PGP?" (Preferred Gender Pronoun) if you don't want to offend, and you should get a he/she response.
What it is: How you externally present
What it is not: Stereotypical roles of men/women
Gender Expression is (usually) how you want others to see you. If you choose to wear heels as opposed to tennis shoes, or sitting with your legs open as opposed to crossed. This is in everything the smallest gestures to what you are wearing. Just as the hetero-community has a growing number of "stay at home dads," and "independent women," leaving less room for assumption, don't assume if you see a masculine women she doesn't cook or clean, or isn't with child. Likewise, don't assume a feminine man can't change a tire.
Play it safe: Making comments that can places anyone in a gender-role box can leave a bad taste in their mouth. Example: If selling to a couple (both female), don't assume the one with a more masculine look would use a strap-on, instead ask "What are your interests?" addressing the pair, to get a feel for who's using what with whom. It may shock you to see that they are opposed to it all-together.
What it is: Whats between your legs and inside
What it is not: How you feel, or how you present
Biological sex is what anatomy you are born with, your hormones, and your chromosomes (whether XX, XY, or a combination of the two). On rare occasions you may not know from the organs down below. With intersex, and individual could have what appears to be a small penis and ovaries.
Play it safe: Never use the term "hermaphrodite." The term once used is now extremely offensive.
What it is: What you like
What it is not: What you "look like you like"
Sexual orientation can be tricky to detect. There are those that swear by their "gaydar," but truth is....you never really know....especially because an individual may not know themselves. Some are in denial, some are in the closet, some are out and proud, and others may be internally confused. Lets stay away from the choice vs. genes debate. Just as people may not know what goes on in your bedroom, people may not know what someone is sexually, emotionally, or spiritually attracted too (Or if they are sexually attracting to anyone at all).
Play it safe: Never assume...speaking as someone in the community....if you really need to know...just ask. People are much less offended by honest questions, than ignorant assumptions.
Sexual Orientation Myth:
Bisexual means you're confused, or that you like everyone equally.
Bisexual means you like biological males and biological females, it does not include transgender or intersex, and it does not mean you like both men and women the same. The term be attracted to "people" in general is Pan-Sexual.
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Product Review for XBiz
By Tamara Payton Bell
First off, this Virtue Trio by NS Novelties is amazing! What I love most is the design and ease of use. The color was an added plus, I have the deep plum color…beautiful! Sometimes it is hard to hold on to a larger vibe when your hands are all lubed up, but the looped handle made it easy to hold on to and keep it right where I needed it. Again, this is an amazing item and the name speaks for itself.
We are moving into a greener society and this vibe is fully rechargeable. It is made of body-safe, high grade silicone with a Velvet Touch ABS base. There are 3 individual motors placed throughout the length for definite pleasure through and through. The 10 preset functions, as well as, the separate speed control create a wave of intense vibration continuously.
When they say more is better, this is definitely the best! You have endless possibilities with this stimulating 3-motors silicone vibrator. Powerful vibrations are perfect for internal and external stimulation. It is water resistant, so ladies, NO tub action, but the shower is okay. It is ABS. Phthalate free.
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Product Review for XBiz
By Tamara Payton Bell
Charms Petite Massager Lace — Key by Jopen
I Love, love, love this Key by Jopen Charms Petite Massager Lace vibe. When I received this item for review, I was impressed by the packaging. It is very cute and compact. The vibe itself left me speechless. I had seen this at its first showing and was excited, but after testing it, for a small vibe, it is remarkable. The design is like lace and added extra pleasure, my vagina thanks you!
It has 5 intense patterns that kept me wanting more! The soft and body safe silicone made it even better, as silicone is one of the safest materials for your body. It’s non porous, which means it does not hold bacteria and is easy to clean. So, if you enjoy tub baths or shower play, no need to worry...it is waterproof. I love the sleek design and the easy push button on and off switch. What I enjoyed most about this vibe is the power. It only uses one AA battery, but it felt like I was using power from the wall. I was amazed of the power for such a small vibe and it was very quiet, I could hardly hear it on high. I recommend a water based lubricant because it is made of high grade silicone.
I really enjoyed this vibe!
JOPEN® is the premiere luxury pleasure object company in North America. A seasoned staff of women drives the creation of JOPEN’S® best-selling collection, Vanity™, as well as the revolutionary new Intensity™ Vibe. They understand the luxury market and fashion JOPEN® products with the features and functions that women want. JOPEN® is affiliated with an established distribution channel that guarantees efficient, accurate and rapid delivery, so retailers always have readily available stock of JOPEN® products. JOPEN® provides pleasure with outstanding customer service, one of the best warranty programs in existence, and products that are designed to please.
It is a must have item for your intimate toy box!
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Product Review for XBiz
By Tamara Payton Bell
Jan 2013 issue
Who would have thought bouncing your way to your orgasm could be fun. I just received this Incredible Sex Stool by Pipedream Products and I must say, it is more than just incredible; it’s Fantastic, Fun and Fulfilling! It’s the three “F’s” of Fetish Fantasy.
When I got the box, it was fairly heavy and I thought it was preassembled, but it was very simple to put together and sturdy. After assembly, it was not to heavy and easy to store. It is wide enough to fit over the most muscular partner, if you know what I mean! I felt like I was serving breakfast in bed, but it was actually dessert. It stayed in place without too much effort on my part. It definitely made an interesting lovemaking session for both parties.
This stool provides various ways to improve anyone’s sex life. It is made out of sturdy tubular steel and safe, phthalate-free, see-through TPU (a high-tech material with just the right amount of give). It allowed me to try positions that I could not do before. It is perfect for those who want to try something new, those who may suffer with disabilities, plus size couples and older couples. It allows you to maintain positions for a longer time. It’s a perfect addition to anyone’s play chest.
The Sex Stool provides a platform 13 inches high with two clear 5-inch wide by 16-inch long clear panels spaced 5-1/2 inches apart that safely holds up to 300 lbs. You can either sit or lay on the stool from the front of the back, any and every position is possible. You can use it with or without a partner, using your favorite sex toy or during oral play for better positioning. The possibilities are endless. I
Over the past 20 years, Pipedream Products has created, and developed some of the best-selling novelty products in the world. Pipedream's mission statement has always remained the same - to give customers great products at a fair price. In 2005, they released the Fetish Fantasy Series. In the last five years it has since become the leading BDSM product line worldwide for beginner and novice fetish players.
It is a must have item for all the naughty couples!
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(Soooo cute)....but a phallic shaped rabbit, with a funny lookin' face, scopin' out your insides? That's a miss for me-- design wise. But hey, if it does the job then stare away little face. So why the face? Through my research I have found 2 consistent stories regarding this Japanese mystery.
Reason #1. Legal Loophole-The phallus is an extremely sensitive symbol, and its use in production is strictly prohibited. In order to get it past legislation, the Japanese came up with an oh-so-creative way to "disguise" the vibrating wonder....slap a face under the head! Genius....no one will ever recognize it now! Actually they put the face under the tip....or they turn the vibe into animals or creatures...like dolphins.
Reason #2. Vibrating Dolls (Another legal loophole)- It is illegal in Japan to ship sex toys out of the country; so, in order to get these high demand items to other areas, a face is made on the vibrator and it sold as a vibrating doll. Can u comb its hair...No. Can you play dress up with it...Not exactly. Will it be on your 6 years old's Christmas list...Let's hope not! But it can bring you hours and hours of pleasure. Batteries not included...
Whatever the reason...be ready to respond to clients either for or against the vibrating dolls/un-phallic like phallus.